June 24, 2014

OUTSIDERS & CO

I am an outsider, I've always been one. In the primary school I was the nerdy one that was always reading and talking about LOTR. In high school I wanted to be a part of the society but it really didn't work out well. Design university turned out to be the institution where I felt the best: I met people weird as I am. I'm so thankful for that because they are one of the most brilliant, kind and inspiring persons in my life and I don't know if I'd be who I am today without them.


  Being the outsider doesn't actually mean that you are unpopular, sad and strange person. Sometimes you are some of those, but not necessarily. I see being an outsider more as a choice than a fact, and I can't see myself choosing different.

In the last days I've been participating in an art project in Milan, that in the first sight I found quite interesting. It turned out that it was more like a high school: the rich and braggy artists were the ones that got attention while some others (including me) were not important enough to get any of it. It didn't matter if the ideas were much more innovative, it was all about the name and the money.

Me and some cool folks pulled out when it was already too humiliating to be there and being ignored for everything you say. An experience in CV is not worth that much.

Back in my universitiy time, my dear professor said something that back in those times I didn't even pay attention to, but it came in to my mind today:

Don't try to be a part of them, because they'll never let you to. Make your own winning team. 


My life experience confirms this every f* time. When I worked with someone that believed in the same things I did, with someone that was calm, self-conscious, humble and open, we did amazing things. And whenever I found myself in a bunch of assholes with big ego and small brain I escaped dissapointed.

It's really imporant to be surrounded by people who believe in you, who support you, who love you for who you are, who know to listen and who don't need to prove anything to anyone. With this kind of people in your team, you are going to win. And the prize may not be a big amount of money or anything fancy, but it will be an inside win, that makes this world worth living, proving there are people with heart and vision and where is still possible to express yourself and create something beautiful together.

What about you? What are your experiences with insiders/outsiders? Let me know in the comments below! Thank you for reading and commenting, you definitely are part of my winning team! :)  




June 17, 2014

LET YOURSELF GLOW

Do you like inspirational quotes about how to live your life to the fullest? I certainly do, there are tons of them on the social networks nowadays. Surrounded by beautiful pictures with happy people, written in fancy fonts they are like a cupcake for the day. I admit, some days I have too many. I like to loose myself reading inspirational stories and looking at the nice pictures daydreaming about all the possibilities that can occur in my life. In real life, when you really go for your dream is not really flowery and easy, that's for sure. But one thing is for sure: if you don't take the road that was meant for you, that your heart is begging you to take, you will regret it for all your life.

I've recently watched french movie Blue is the warmest color (that I highly recommend) where the main character Adèle is having a relationship with older girl, an art student. Adèle likes to read and she also writes, but she hasn't the courage to expose her work. Her artsy girlfriend encourages her to write, to try create something hers that will fulfill her. Adèle responds that she has the love that fulfills her, and that she only writes for herself. Later in the movie we see that her parents doesn't really believe in art because it's difficult to live and eat from it. When her girlfriend is preparing an exhibition and working long hours she is unhappy and cheats her with another man. The artist find out and she brokes up with Adèle. 

Infidelity, according to Steven Pressfield in War of Art, is one of the main excuses for not  doing your art. Then come drugs, partying, any kind of addictions, food, sex, alcohol, .. all this are dramas that were supposed to be art. 

Instead of doing what we secretly want to do, we destroy ourselves, we destroy our relationships, our time, our hopes. If we don't do our art, we suffer. And people around us suffer. Because people who love you wants you to shine. If they love you for real, they will understand that you need that hour or two a day to create and be just by yourself. 
When I don't create, I'm really getting on everyone's nerves, I really can't support myself.
That's why the best time to do art (if you can) is in the morning. In this way you have all the day to live calmly in peace with yourself. You've done your soul work for that day. The world seems nicer. 

Now go there, do your work and let yourself GLOW. Thank you.



June 10, 2014

BLUE IS THE WARMEST COLOR


There is no place like Greece. I don't know any place where you can feel so free, where people are so kind and friendly, where you eat great food and you never feel that you have to pretend that you're someone that you're not. It's important to just be. Doesn't matter if your car is old and your house may need maintenace, why should you bother when you have the SEA. And you are alive. 

I have never heard any complain about the crysis. Not even once. And that made me think; it's really your mind and your toughts that CAN change your life. People were happy for what they had, for fresh tomatoes, for flowers and fish, for having each other and for living where they live,in one of the most beautiful places in the world. They could complain that there is no work, that Greece is in crysis, but what I experienced was only kindness, happiness with simple life, curiosity of new things, blessings of the nature that is all around. 

In the past days I'm trying to apply this greek attitude to my life. I am thankful for what I have and when I am open as the ocean, when I'm kind and calm, compassionate and when I try to connect, the new doors open. 

All because of the sea in my eyes.













June 4, 2014

HOW TO STAY STRONG WHEN EVERYTHING SUCKS

Here is the fact: everything sucks these days. 

I guess you've been there too. Everything seems black and you can't see no sun ray coming back to your life, ever. And moreover, everyone around you seem so happy when you are deeply in suffer. If you have that melodramatic side that is sometimes keen on taking things in life too personal and too serious, this post may be for you.

I put together some advices that usually work good for me:

- Admit that it's a shitty day and have a cry.  
 You don't have to be always on top smiling and be perfect in any sitaution. You are just human.

- Have a walk/run.
 It's good to put your body into action, in this way the good hormones start producing and you get new perspective on whole thing.


- Dress up. 
You may tought that this one is a bit srange one, but believe me, just putting your favourite dress on, putting on some make up and bright lipstick can really lift you up.



- Remember yourself of what you've achieved.
Yes, you've already been through a lot. But all the greatest improvements come after a hard time. Remind yourself what you have already done, achieve, and what are your next dreams.

-Count your blessings.
May it seem so obvious, but you are alive. Be grateful for that, and for eveyone that is a part of your life: your friends, family, love...Be grateful for what you can do with your life, remember that not everone is that lucky.

- Treat yourself.
My friend's advice is that whenever she feel bad, she buys some good and expensive healthy food. After that she can really feel strong and empowered. Some other say that there is no better medicine than shopping. Whatever works for you, don't skip this one. As Julia Cameron writes in awesome book The Artist's way: 





Amen to that.

What are your techniques when you feel down? Let me know in the comments below!